Have you written your obituary yet?

CindyLouWho · 03-03-2010, 05:05 PM

After having attended two funerals in the last week and a half, I started thinking that maybe my husband and I should write our obituaries and wishes of what we would like to have done when we pass on. My husband says that it's "morbid" to do so but I think it would be nice to have it all done already so that when the time comes it will be one less thing our children will have to deal with.

What's your opinion? Have you made your "final" plans yet? How would you arrange your funeral? What type of service do you want? What kind of music would you have them play? Will you be buried or cremated?

Blue Baboon · 03-03-2010, 05:11 PM

I think I should have my funeral at a bar with bands playing all day long. Then throw my ashes into the ocean. Well, that will never happen, but just a cool idea.

I know a woman that knew she was dying so instead of a funeral she had a party at her house with all her friends. She wanted to spend time with them while alive and have them remember her that way. She was a big part of our community and did a lot for the downtown and for the art counsel. She was a very kind and generous person who you would never guess went thought a lot of hardship during her life. She always had a smile for everyone.

dgridley · 03-03-2010, 05:19 PM

I've requested that I be cremated several times to several different people but all refused

I guess all I need to know is that they keep my trash bag up on the curb so I don't get run over.

But seriously, at my age, it's certainly something I've thought about, particularly when we've had a few tenants here die with no relatives to claim them or their belongings and all their belongings ended up in the dumpster for people to paw thru and they're buried in a pauper's grave. No joke.. but I guess when you're gone, what does it matter? You can't take it with you.

CindyLouWho · 03-03-2010, 05:28 PM

At the funeral I went to on Monday, they played country music and polkas because that's the kind of music the woman had enjoyed when she was alive. I thought that was really nice.

I have already found a few songs from the '70s that I want played at my funeral. "Time In a Bottle", "Have You Seen Her", and "Babe" would be good ones. I also have a CD of my uncle who used to be a minister singing "How Great Thou Art" so that would be good for the closing hymn. At this time I am leaning towards being cremated but haven't decided for sure yet. I would still want to be buried in the local cemetery though so that future genealogists would be able to find me when they do family history research.

When I asked my husband what type of music he wants he said he likes disco! So I guess he wants everyone to "get up and boogie" at his funeral! LOL

pk · 03-03-2010, 05:53 PM

I know that I would like a white with gold trim casket with a beautiful spray of wild flowers across the top. I would like wild flowers around the casket more so than your typical carnation, mum things.

Music, I totally want the song, If Only I Can Imagine, by Mercy Me. And Old Rugged Cross. 2 of my favorite songs. During the wake I would like background music of a large assortment of songs that I liked through out my life.

I also tell everyone that I don't want to be buried in a dress, not me. lol Give me jeans and a nice top so I can be comfortable as I am rotting away.

I also know where I would like to be buried and hopefully we will be able to purchase plots in the near future as I think that is an important thing that everyone should do if they have an idea where they would like to be. I do also wish that my resting place will be near or under a tree.

Anyways, that is about it for now.

Oh.. as far as writing my own obituary, that seems more difficult as I am not sure what I will have done, or been involved in, etc. by the time that I pass on. An Obit usually takes in the person's life as well as living relatives or a mention of ones that has already passed. So not knowning if I am going to die next week or 30 years from now it's kinda something I will let go for my family to finish.

How about wills? Anyone have one in place yet?

Blue Baboon · 03-03-2010, 07:25 PM

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Originally Posted by CindyLouWho

When I asked my husband what type of music he wants he said he likes disco! So I guess he wants everyone to "get up and boogie" at his funeral! LOL

I don't think "Stayin' Alive" is going to sound right hahaha. If he gets cremated he could have "Disco Inferno" playing... Burn, baby, burn.

CindyLouWho · 03-03-2010, 10:21 PM

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I don't think "Stayin' Alive" is going to sound right hahaha. If he gets cremated he could have "Disco Inferno" playing... Burn, baby, burn.

LOL That's so funny Blue! Thanks for the laugh!

Actually, his favorite groups are The Bee Gees and ABBA! I do like the "Disco Inferno" song idea though.

Blue Baboon · 03-03-2010, 11:11 PM

I thought all guys hated disco. At least that's what they always claimed.

CindyLouWho · 03-03-2010, 11:18 PM

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I thought all guys hated disco. At least that's what they always claimed.

Not my guy! He would play their CD's constantly if I let him. I recently took them out of my vehicle so I wouldn't have to hear them every time we go somewhere together! LOL

Blue Baboon · 03-03-2010, 11:22 PM

Does he have some Rod Stewart? If you think I'm sexy and you want my body... Now there's a song you can play at his funeral.

CindyLouWho · 03-03-2010, 11:35 PM

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Does he have some Rod Stewart? If you think I'm sexy and you want my body... Now there's a song you can play at his funeral.

Now THAT might be pushing it just a little bit too much! LOL

pk · 03-03-2010, 11:44 PM

If you decide to get cremated a good song to play would be: Dust in the Wind.

Or how about a good song for a funeral: Another One Bites The Dust (Queen).

Latina · 03-04-2010, 08:13 AM

I have a will & have asked to be cremated, with no service. Not sure if my wishes will be honored, but i hope so, for my kids sake.

My sons father was cremated & they had a huge service for him. That was the hardest thing i ever seen my son go through & wont do that to them.

CindyLouWho · 03-04-2010, 09:49 AM

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Originally Posted by pk

If you decide to get cremated a good song to play would be: Dust in the Wind.

Or how about a good song for a funeral: Another One Bites The Dust (Queen).

LOL I will have to mention those ones to him!

When ever I hear that Queen song, I always think about Weird Al Yankovick's version called "Another One Rides the Bus."

Blue Baboon · 03-04-2010, 04:52 PM

I think the song that will be playing at my funeral will be the Funny Farm song. "They're coming to take me away hoho haha hehee!"

dgridley · 03-04-2010, 05:25 PM

I resemble that song..

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Originally Posted by Blue Baboon

I think the song that will be playing at my funeral will be the Funny Farm song. "They're coming to take me away hoho haha hehee!"

**j10asen** · 03-04-2010, 09:26 PM

I have pondered this thought many times
sometimes I stay focused
sometimes I go blind
How will I go
where will I be
will it be in glory
or will I be hung from a tree
will there be tears of sadness
or tears of joy
will I go peaceful
or screaming like a pageboy

stoney rohde

For a long time I thought my parting song should be In-A-Gadda-Da-Vida because it is so long and I could drag out the funeral a bit longer before the hordes hit the lunch line.
Now I am hoping to record Amazing Grace with a ukulele. Someday if I live long enough to learn it on the ukulele, that is.
I also want to be char-broiled and my ashes evenly dispersed over the flatted plain like Judas Priest did with the money he loaned to Franky-Lee.

dgridley · 05-18-2010, 11:06 AM

I have no idea what my obituary could possibly read.. I don't really have any friends in the area and my relatives all live back East.. don't expect to have a big funeral.