No, we actively talked about her getting a divorce and, up until recently, getting a divorce was put on hold because a) she was unsure how to handle custody and wanted an uncontested divorce, if possible, and he wasn't willing, and b) money issues (paying for divorce, worrying about taxes, child support, etc). And her husband is only 2-3 years older than she is.
I don't doubt I made it easier for me to "leave him" and, trust me, that wasn't my intention.. I thought a divorce was imminent and it just never happened that way. Once I started pushing for it (and for her to cut back on spending her money), she suddenly needed time to "think things over".
Her last check was over $700 and she went thru it in one day and never paid a single bill.. same thing this check, over $800, and she spent over $600 of it at Walmart between Friday and Saturday. She's not paying rent where she is now and didn't pay rent when she lived with me, didn't even have a job the first 4-5 months. She was supposed to pay rent this month once she went on the lease and moved out. She's decided to let her husband have custody of the kids. Guess she had other priorities after all.
EDIT: BTW- I'm not badmouthing her.. I do still care about her, just don't see a future for her and I together without some major changes.
I actually hope she goes back to her husband and kids. He wants her back and the kids need a mom around.
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Originally Posted by Latina
Because she told you she was or did you assume that?
You had to know it was very possible she would remain married, right? Considering she was living with her husband when you met her & went from his house to yours, to now apparently living with others and still not being completely independent. Not to mention having a few kids with him & if i recall correctly you said her hubby is also much older? Sounds like she needs that daddy figure to carry her & divorce would mean losing that, being so young herself & most likely never having to depend on herself 100%, sounds as if she needs that security blanket, rather than take care of herself. Of course i could be way off, but that's my perception from what you have said in the past & now.
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